Self Awareness - What You May Not Know

You think you're self-aware. Most people do. Research shows that although 95% of people think they're self-aware, only 10 to 15% actually are Suzimcalpine (Eurich). That gap is costing you influence. Here's what you may not know about self-awareness:

You Can't See Yourself Clearly Without Help

Self-awareness isn't achieved through introspection alone. You need external input. How you think you come across and how you actually come across are often completely different. You believe you're confident—others see arrogance. You think you're detailed—others feel micromanaged. Without feedback, you're operating blind.

Your Strengths Overused Become Weaknesses

You're analytical? Congratulations—you're also probably seen as indecisive. You're decisive? Great—you're likely perceived as not listening. Your biggest strength, when overplayed, becomes your biggest liability. Self-aware leaders know this. They regulate their strengths based on what the situation requires, not what comes naturally.

You Have Blind Spots You Can't See Alone

Blind spots exist because you can't see them. That's the definition. Maybe you interrupt constantly. Maybe your body language shuts people down. Maybe you say "I'll get back to you" and never do. These patterns are invisible to you but glaringly obvious to everyone else. If you're not actively seeking feedback, you're reinforcing behaviors that undermine you.

Self-Awareness Requires Uncomfortable Action

Watch yourself on video. Ask for brutally honest feedback. Pay attention to how people respond to you. Notice when you're defensive. Track patterns in your behavior. This work is uncomfortable. Do it anyway. The cost of staying unaware is higher than the discomfort of getting aware.

Self-awareness isn't optional for influential leaders. It's foundational. Stop assuming you know how you show up. Ask. Listen. Adjust. Your influence depends on it.